Masturbation, Shame and Relationships
Posted by Laurel House on
Yes, you can masturbate even when you are in a healthy relationship. But first, masturbation needs to be demystified, because there seems to be confusion, insecurity and even shame around it within some relationships. Some men even feel as if they are being shamed by their partners. Why is this?
Men, Here’s Why Your Woman Might Be Shaming You for Masturbating
When women shame their men for masturbating, it can stem from a feeling of insecurity. She might fear that during his moments of pleasure, she is far from his mind. When women don’t understand things, we make up stories to help clarify, rationalize or understand. Generally, those fictionalized stories are the worst possible scenarios - we might imagine that when he’s pleasuring himself, he’s fantasizing that he’s getting off with two other women, or maybe with strippers who have huge breasts, his ex-girlfriend or her best friend. Or, he’s simply mentally seeing a slideshow of porn.
How Can You Demystify This Secret Among Men?
If you want your woman to be understanding about your masturbation, help her to understand! Explain how you’re feeling, maybe even walk her through the process - where you do it, how you do it, what you use (mental or physical stimulation) to bring yourself to orgasm, what you fantasize about, how often, etc. Communication creates clarity, and clarity creates confidence. Better yet, bring her into the process - masturbate together! By showing her, you are demystifying this secret among men. More than demystifying, you are turning it into something sexy that you both can share. And let’s be honest, you will love watching her get herself off, too. Soon, you can incorporate the act into your sex life.
Make Couple's Masturbation Even Better!
Make it even better and more exciting by adding in some sex toys. Toys make it playful, while simultaneously intensifying the pleasure. You can help her climax faster, harder and deeper with clitoral stimulators. And what about you? Have you even allowed your nipples to be squeezed or clamped? You just might feel more aroused that even she could have imagined.
Here are a few products that you may consider trying out:
Butterfly Kiss G-Spot Vibrator
