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Strapless vs. Harnessed: Which One Is for You?
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When it comes to strap ons and harnesses, there are a lot of decisions that you can make to tailor your experience for something that’s right for you and your partner, as well as which option will provide you with the most pleasure. But where do you start? First, you’ll need to understand why you may want a strap on to begin with, and then you’ll need to learn a bit about what each version can offer.
Buying Your First Strap On
When you begin shopping for a strap on, it can be a really fun experience. There are so many bells and whistles these days that will provide you with endless nights of satisfaction. But why have you decided to shop for a strap on?
First, let’s get this out of the way. It doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t satisfied with your size, or that you aren’t, for that matter. This type of toy is a sexual enhancer, just like any number of other products out there on the market. It is designed to work right along with your own body to provide you with the most pleasurable experience possible. It in no way represents any type of inadequacy.
A strap on can work in a number of different ways, so that several types of situations can be explored and enjoyed. If you’d like to enhance your length or girth (similar to a penis extender) with a toy for men, then a hollow strap on will definitely do the trick, and you can even opt for a vibrator to provide pure ecstasy for both partners. Additionally, a large number of the dildos that come with a strap on can look very realistic in nature.
Or, you might be interested in a little pegging. If you’re not in the know about this exciting adventure, pegging is where there’s a little role reversal, and the female partner is able to anally penetrate her male partner. This can obviously be super sexy for several reasons, with the top ones being that the female can see what it feels like to be in a new sexual role, and with the male enjoying the anal play that he’s always wanted.
The great news is that strap ons work perfectly with any type of couple, whether it be a female/male, male/male or female/female relationship. It’s the type of toy that can cause you to really sexually explore and lower your inhibitions, which can bring you much closer together as a couple.
Strap Ons With a Harness
When you begin looking at the difference between strap ons with a harness and strapless options, the main difference is quite noticeable. Harnesses with dildos will come complete with adjustable straps, to allow it to be tightened according to your body size and shape. Most harnesses will fit almost all sizes and shapes, so there’s typically nothing to worry about there.
Now, when first experimenting with your harness, you’ll need to make sure that the portion of the harness that holds the dildo will sit just below your hips.You’ll want it to be rather snug, so as not to allow the dildo to shift, but not so tight as to make it uncomfortable. Remember, the whole purpose here is your enjoyment!
If you’ve opted for a hollow strap on, you’ll first want to slip the hollowed-out dildo over the penis before adjusting the harness to fit properly. Be sure that you purchase a size that won’t cramp or pinch the penis in any way. It will not really loosen or stretch out, so if it doesn’t fit when you first try it on, it won’t fit an hour from now, either. Just remember to use your favorite water-based lubricant, and you’re ready to go! Keep in mind that it’s very important to always use a lube when you’re incorporating a toy into your sexual routine. Get a little fun with it and get a warming lubricant, or maybe even one that gives a tingling sensation.
Strapless Strap On Dildos
This is going to quickly become one of your favorite playthings, for sure! If you don’t like the idea of being constricted or contained by a harness, but you still want to go completely hands-free, then this is the product for you! But how does it stay on? Well, that’s the fun part.
The user will position the toy with the dildo in the front, either against the vagina or over the penis (as a hollow dildo), and there will be a small bulbous end that will be inserted in either the vagina or the anus. And here’s where things get even more interesting. Often, these strapless toys will also include a vibrator - sometimes at both ends. Are you getting the big picture now? You can enjoy a little anal or clit action, while your partner is the recipient of your deep thrusts. I bet you can’t wait to try it!
So, if you are trying to decide whether to go with a harness or to try strapless, you really can’t go wrong either way. It really is all up to your personal preference. If you want to feel as if the dildo is more secure, and you plan on a little more adventurous action, then it may be easier to keep in place.
However, if you love the idea of penetration for both parties, and not having to tighten and maneuver a harness, then strapless is undeniably the way to go.
Just keep in mind that, either way, you’ll want to start off a little slow until you get all of the maneuvering down to an art form. You are going to absolutely love experimenting with going hands-free. Invest in a masturbator, and you may never want to use your hands again!
Also, consider working your way up in size. Purchasing a larger toy can always be an option down the road when you’re ready.
If you still have questions, feel free to contact our 24/7 customer service for additional information. And just remember to always order quality products from a trusted source. They will last longer, and you will enjoy them even more.
So, what are you waiting for? Order that brand new toy today and get ready for those endless nights!