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The Male G-Spot
Posted by Dean Bring on
Are you still having orgasms the old-fashioned way - the same way you did when you were a teenager? If so, it might be time to explore new avenues for pleasure. Have you ever heard of the male G-spot? In men, the G-spot is also often called the P-spot, or you might know it by its actual name; the prostate. Packed with nerve ending, stimulation of this walnut-sized gland can be extremely pleasurable, and many men report having much more intense orgasms. Intrigued? Keep reading to learn more about this little gem hidden in your body.
Where Is The Male G-Spot?
The male G-spot is located just below the bladder, about 2 inches inside the rectum, which is about the length of your finger to your first knuckle (which is convenient). If it helps you to visualize, it’s in the area between your scrotum and rectum.
How To Hit The Male G-Spot?
Because the prostate gland is internal, you can’t directly touch it, but you can stimulate it from either outside the body or through anal insertion. Externally, you can massage the perineum, which is the strip of skin between the scrotum and the anus. Internally, you can use things like fingers and toys (or penetration with a penis or strap-on) to reach it. Each method has its advantages, and some may prefer one method over the other, or they may enjoy both. You won’t know until you try!
Direct Stimulation Via The Rectum
Anal penetration is one of the more common ways to access the prostate. But if you’ve never tried it before, you may want to practice it first during masturbation to figure out what feels good so that you can communicate this to a partner later. Fortunately, given the location and size of the prostate, shallow penetration is all that is needed to access it.
Best Positions for Male G-Spot Stimulation
Penetrative sex for prostate stimulation can be done in several different positions, such as missionary or doggy style.
Both of these positions allow for direct, unimpeded contact and can provide continual pleasure to both the giver and receiver.
That said, feel free to try other positions to see what feels best for you because different things feel better to different people.
For example, laying on your side while being penetrated is another potentially great way to target the prostate.
Indirect Stimulation Via The Perineum
Consistent pressure is the key to orgasming through your perineum (an area some people refer to as the “taint”). You or your partner can apply firm but gentle pressure in a back-and-forth motion to stimulate the prostate in this way. This is probably where a prostate massager can come in handy, so to speak. There are both internal and external versions of these devices that apply vibration and pressure to your prostate so that you can have a hands-free experience to focus on other things (such as your partner or your penis). If you find you are able to have P-spot orgasms, these devices can help get you there quicker.
Pro Tip: A P-spot orgasm might sneak up on you, and can be very intense.
What To Expect
During prostate stimulation, you may not feel much of anything at first. This is normal - it can be challenging to have an orgasm this way if you've never done it or you have hang-ups about anal play. This is why consistent pressure is key! Just like with penis-focused orgasms, the sensation can build over time, and it may feel very different from orgasms that occur through penile stimulation alone. For some people, just a little bit of play is enough to generate prostate orgasms, but it takes a dedicated hand for others. Or it might not happen at all because everyone’s body is different. Do what’s pleasurable for you and what works for your body!
Pro Tip: this type of sexual stimulation can sometimes make you feel the urge to go to the restroom, so it's a good idea to get that out of the way before getting started.
How Does Stimulating The Male G-Spot Feel?
If you’re doing it right--meaning you are taking your time, going slow, and using plenty of lube--there shouldn’t be any pain. If you do feel pain, stop, take a break, and get more lube before you try again. If it continues to be painful, talk to your doctor because it could be a sign of a potential health issue in need of treatment. The way men describe P-spot orgasms varies, and what it feels like depends on whether you’re also combining it with penile stimulation. Some men might stimulate the prostate only, while others may combine it with penile masturbation. So how it feels ultimately depends on how you’re doing it. If you’re just stimulating the prostate, you may experience leaking of a milky, semen-like substance from the tip of the penis.This "prostate milk," as some call it, is sometimes a precursor to a prostate orgasm. For those who experience this, you'll likely feel the pleasure mount over time. As you’re doing this, it’s important to communicate with your partner if you need them to stop or slow down or if the stimulation becomes too intense.
As The Receiver
The anus is rich with nerve endings, making every little bit of penetration and movement feel quite intense. And this intensity might be part of the reason men describe P-spot orgasms as being stronger than other orgasms. The intensity of the stimulation leads you to focus more on your body sensations, which can allow you to really be in the moment and feel everything more intensely.
As The Giver
As the penetrative partner, you are looking for a walnut-sized, somewhat firm structure. You may want to practice finding it on your partner first with your finger before using toys so that you know where to direct the stimulation. Whether you’re providing internal or external stimulation, go slow and communicate with your partner. If you’re penetrating them, the key is slow, shallow strokes and focusing on helping your partner orgasm.
Preparing for any type of anal sex may require some mental exercises first. For many men, anal play is taboo or completely off-limits. But even for those who are willing to explore it, they might still have reservations. If you have some of these hang-ups, start first with some relaxation and breathing exercises to get in the right state of mind. If you aren’t fully relaxed, it will be much harder to experience pleasure, and it could make the experience painful. Also, consider trying things on your own first to increase your comfort level before introducing this activity with a partner. You may also find it helpful to read stories online of other people’s experiences. This may give you some new ideas, while also helping to normalize them. Beyond this, there are other aspects of preparation for anal play that you might not have considered. From hygiene to simply going to the bathroom first, make sure you consider all of this, so you and your partner have an enjoyable, sexy time.
Any type of anal play usually requires a bit of preparation and some tools to make sure everyone has a good time. What follows are some of the most important things to bring for P-spot play.
The most important part of this type of sex play is using lots and lots of lube, especially if you’re doing any type of penetration, whether with fingers or toys.
Pro Tip: Promescent makes a great line of personal lubricants. Check out our silicone-based lube next time you want to enjoy your P-Spot.
Silicone-based lubricants may be your best bet because they don't dry out as quickly as water-based lubricants. However, silicone lubes may not be compatible with the toys you’re using, so be sure to find a toy-friendly lube if that’s the case. Likewise, if you're stimulating the prostate through anal sex, lubrication is necessary for both parties.
You might want to invest in a good prostate massager as well. These can make P-spot orgasms much easier than penetration with a finger. And if you find you like male G-spot play, this can introduce new and potentially more intense sensations. However, look for something optimized for the prostate as opposed to, say, a vibrating dildo that isn’t angled to hit the prostate. Dildos also tend to be larger than you need to stimulate the prostate. You might also consider using a small butt plug to dilate the anus and make penetration easier. Additionally, wearing a butt plug during sex or masturbation can stimulate the prostate gland as you simultaneously receive penile stimulation, which can potentially lead to more intense orgasms.
Towels and Towelettes
You're going to be using a lot of lube, so putting a towel down is a good idea, so you don't stain sheets or make a mess. You'll also want some kind of wipe to clean up after. Promescent before and after wipes are a great choice because they're very gentle, and you don't want irritation down there.
Condoms or Other Protection
Condoms or some other type of sexual barrier are important to ensure everyone stays safe, clean, and happy. If you’re using toys that are shared between partners, putting a condom around them can reduce the risk of STI transmission because simply washing toys might not be enough.
Pro Tip: Promescent makes a premium adult toy cleaner that is safe and effective for you and your toys.
Condoms are also important for penile insertion, and if you’re inserting fingers, then latex gloves or finger condoms can be your friend.
Cleaning Up First
Many people find that anal play--and sex play in general--is more comfortable and pleasurable when cleanliness is taken into account. Here are some steps to consider to keep things running smoothly.
Some people feel more comfortable trimming or waxing their anal area prior to anal play. This is optional and depends on your comfort level. But if you opt to groom, take care! This means using tools (like a manscaper) that are designed to reduce the risk of cuts and injury. It also means taking your time and not rushing, and also planning this out in advance. Doctors often recommend not grooming immediately before sex so that you give the skin some time to recover first.
To Douche or Not to Douche?
Some people feel self-conscious about anal cleanliness, so they use douches or enemas prior to anal play. However, some people achieve similar effects by eating a high-fiber diet or taking fiber supplements. Enemas and douching carry certain risks, particularly when done very frequently or are overused. So if you’re going to use these products, educate yourself on the safest way to use them first.
Hit the Showers
If you know you're going to be engaging in prostate play, go to the bathroom as completely as possible first. Follow that up with a shower to ensure the area is clean. This can help with relaxation because if you are worried about how you smell or how your partner is interpreting your hygiene, this can make it harder to be in the moment and have fun.
Tips, Techniques, And Toys
While playing with your P-spot is pretty straightforward, there are a lot of ways to spice it up.
Some of these massagers provide internal stimulation only, whereas others provide a combination of internal and external stimulation. Both types can be helpful for facilitating male g-spot orgasms and can be fun to introduce into your sex routine. They're specifically designed and angled to hit the prostate directly while also providing firm, consistent vibrations to help you get the pleasure you’re after.
These are thin vibrators with a bulb at the end that is angled to hit the prostate. Unlike a dildo or other vibrator where the whole thing is wide, a prostate wand is designed to take the focus away from the girth of the penetrative object. By utilizing a thinner penetration device with a vibrator directly on the P-spot, you can engage the prostate without any potential discomfort that might come from using a larger toy.
If you're manipulating the prostate with your fingers, a handy trick is to use the "come hither" motion. This is very similar to the technique commonly recommended to hit the G-spot in women. By drawing your index finger toward you slowly, you can hit the prostate over and over. However, if you (or your partner) are using fingers for stimulation, make sure fingernails are trimmed short and consider using gloves or finger condoms to reduce the risk of potential injury.
Use Your Hands Elsewhere
The penetrative partner can provide other forms of stimulation to the receptive partner while they stimulate the prostate if mutually desired, such as by stimulating the penis or scrotum This combination of sexual attention can make sensations for the receptive partner even more intense. Moreover, priming the penis to orgasm can help make it easier to get off through prostate massage. Foreplay has a significant role here, too - the more relaxed and turned-on you both are, the easier it will be to orgasm.
Don't Get Discouraged
Anal sex and prostate stimulation are not for everyone. And if you try to orgasm with P-spot stimulation and find it doesn't work, try again. It may take a few experimental sessions to get it right, but if you do, you'll keep coming back for more. Remember: practice makes perfect!