Guide to Rimming and Analingus
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While it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, some people really enjoy the feeling of a tongue or a set of lips to their bum - particularly the anus. And, there are quite a lot of people who like being the one to give this particular sort of satisfaction. While many use this as a form of foreplay, it can also be the open door to all sorts of anal play.
This special act of seduction is known by many terms, including rimming, analingus and the ever popular “tossing the salad.” However, this can probably seem like a completely foreign idea to you if this is something you’ve never done before, or perhaps never even considered. But as we all know, discussing our wants and desires with our partners is a very important part of a relationship. For example, like when you’re shopping for your first “purchased together” sex toy. It’s healthy and perfectly natural to discuss things that you’d like to do to your partner, or what you’d like your partner to do to you. Therefore, if rimming comes up, you’ll have to decide if this is something for you, or at least something you’d like to try. No pressure here, but have you ever heard the saying about trying anything once? Experimentation is also great for a relationship. So, who’s ready to learn more?
First Things First
As with any type of sexual encounter, cleanliness is next to… well, let’s just say that it’s a good idea to be sure that everything’s coming up roses! Analingus may come up quite unexpectedly. If that’s the case and you’re feeling a little anxious, hit the pause button and do a quick clean in the bathroom with warm water and some type of unscented soap or light-smelling body wash. If you have access, any type of unscented wipe would also be ideal.
However, if you have some real time to prepare, take a nice shower, and pay special attention to “back there.” Again, soap and warm water, just like cleaning a sex toy, are perfect. Many will suggest that you gently use your finger in the shower or bath to clean around the inside of the anus - just to be extra assured.
Now, what if you’re going to be one giving this delight? Is it crazy to get your partner to do the same thing? Absolutely not! Hopefully, they’ll think of a little preparation on their own, but if not, where there’s a will, there’s a way, right?
Suggest you both jump in the shower together, and pull out your soap, sponge and craving for creativity! Begin to clean one another in a slow, sexy manner, and then move on to bum - just like you would probably do before any type of anal foreplay. In fact, THIS can be the foreplay to your foreplay. Begin teasing the anus with a sudsy finger - that way you have all of the assurance that you need, and you’re also giving your partner a hint of the pleasures that are to come.
And as with any type of sexual act, safety should be a priority! So, think seriously about keeping a dental dam around for these sorts of occasions, as to prevent any spread of germs, bacteria or others. If you’re not in the know, a dental dam is used as a barrier between the mouth and the anus, and it is usually made from stretchy rubber or latex.
Getting Down to It
If this is your first time, we’re going to get really graphic so that you know exactly what to expect. Maybe you’ve used a butt plug before, or have experimented in other ways, and the back door isn’t exactly foreign to you. That’s okay, because it will give you a little more insight into the pleasures that await.
This may seem a little obvious, but you’re going to want to position yourself behind your partner, or you can maintain a 69-style position. Get your face close enough to the anus, and begin to lick with your tongue, use your lips, or do whatever else feels good to your partner.
If you’re still a little worried about the taste, you can also use a water-based lubricant that has a particular flavor or even a scent. Easy peasy, right?
Toys for Anal Play
Perhaps this was your first experience with some bum action, regardless if you are the giver or the receiver. And maybe now you’re a little curious about other toys and escapades that bring an incredible climax. After all, many couples use rimming as the prelude to exploration with a toy, or the actual act of anal sex.
The good news is that there are many options from which to choose. Here are a few to help you get started.
Anal Beads
These playthings are quite popular, as they’re inexpensive and can help prepare the anus for bigger things. These beads are often in varying sizes, so you can decide how far you want to go, and they can cause intense pleasure when inserted and then gently pulled back out. Some even vibrate.
- Midnight Waltz 12 Inch Silicone Anal Beads
- VeDO Quaker Ribbed Anal Vibrator
- Flexa Pleaser Anal Beads and Anal Hygiene Kit
Butt Plugs
This type of toy creates yet another option for those who may be working up to anal sex, or perhaps a larger dildo. And, they can also be enjoyed as a you within their own right. Butt plugs can be inserted and worn for a period of time that is comfortable to the wearer, and some also come with a vibrating mechanism.
- Colt Anal Trainer Kit
- Icicles No. 44 Beginner Glass Plug
- Rocks Off 7 Speed Butt Quiver Silicone Plug
Anal Dildos
As mentioned, there are also dildos that are designed specifically for the anus. These can provide immense satisfaction, especially when they are curved just right to reach the P-spot. Available in various sizes, you can start off small and increase the dildo in size until you’re able to take in the girth or length that you’ve been dreaming about - nightly.
- Pearl Shine 9 Inch Waterproof Realistic Vibrating Dildo
- Real Feel Deluxe No. 7 Realistic Vibrating 10.5 Inch Suction Dildo
- Real Skin Whoppers 6.5 Inch Dildo in Brown
Prostate Massagers
These bad boys bring it all - including the perfect shape to reach the prostate, as well as a little vibe action. These toys can bring a sheet-clenching climax, which makes them an absolutely favorite for anal play!